Episode 12

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5th Mar 2024

I'm Not (Always) Your Superwoman: March Mellowness & Women's History

Cue that good Karyn White (IYKYK!) and belt your lungs out ladies! 

Happy Women's History Month and Disability Awareness Month!

As we segue from our previous, initial series on a month full of conversations around romantic Black love, we dive into Season Two, on Black SELF and Black woman love!

Don't get it twisted, loving yourself and a Black woman is romantic AF. However, in Series Two, we are truly going to take the time to celebrate Black women both now and then, and their limitless accomplishments amidst being deemed by society, at minimim, a trio of marginalized intersectionality.

Women are Superwomen, but that S on our chest might sometimes need to stand literally for Something Different Every Day. It might be Super, Soft, Super Soft, etc.

So in this second series we will also be deeply unpacking how to continue celebrating ourselves as a people beyond the short month of February (woohoo, we got an extra day this leap year ...) through the awareness of invisible disabilities. In the disability category, mental health challenges are often deemed unqualified by the greater population and especially within the Black community in terms of what disabled persons endure. 

As two individuals with our own experiences, we discuss our personal challenges and how our community can heal through mental health awareness.

In this episode, we:

  • Close out the previous series by debunking, clarifying, and/or standing ten toes down on assumptions and insinuations surrounding the unpopular opinions we shared in Series One on women (and men) in dating and relationships.
  • Segue into making clear what Black women bring to the table.
  • Discuss how mental health affects the Black woman.
  • Unpack the intersections for Black women of mental health and relationships, expounding on what we expect, deal with, shouldn't deal with, and should avoid interpersonally.
  • Deliberate on what the Soft Life Era is and what it might look like for Black women.
  • How a Black woman's partner hurts or helps her become her best self.
  • And of course we share our thoughts on everything that may or may not be unpopular!

If you're looking for somewhere to be authentic, Black, and unpopularly opinionated, you've come to the right place.


Welcome to a safe space to be just that.

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Black by Unpopular Opinion
Streams of consciousness independently flowing through roads of "wokeness" less traveled.
Black by Unpopular Opinion is a podcast conceived after many long hours over the years of profound discussions --and sometimes heatedly debating-- between one another topics that concern, enlighten, and affect us on a daily basis. We recognize that voices like ours are needed in today's societal climate: voices concentrated on the singular objective of achieving equality and respect for every single Black and downtrodden individual on this planet, albeit trekking very different roads to said purpose--hence the origin of this platform.
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​This, however, doesn't mean that our main objectives in creating BBUOP will always result in dismal conversation.

As serious and often somber the conversation surrounding the plight of being Black and oppressed in America, --and around the globe--can be, our platform won’t be without lighthearted and enjoyable moments, mirroring another major part of our, and the entire Black existence as well. To be Black is to also be celebrated, resilient, and optimistic. We delight in friendly banter (and occasional PDA). Also worth noting: a multitude of our discussions are not and will not always be restricted solely to issues of race relations. Sports, entertainment, and literature, among numerous other topics will additionally be memorable components of our podcast.

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Phillip Barnes

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My name is Phillip Lionel Barnes Junior, and I am a young, ambitious man working every day to connect to God first, and impart the knowledge I have gained over the years to as many people as possible. A man of God, student, son, uncle, brother, and future husband, I am toiling to improve the lives of myself, my family, and the people around me through words, prayer, and actions.

I have a goofier side to me, but I am naturally inquisitive, curious, and sensitive and all of that will be on public display as we divulge our conversations to the world. I have entirely too many thoughts to not share, and I hope that by us sharing what we think, know, believe, and understand, it gives someone out there the insight into two minds that have come from different worlds, but converged on the same goal: Black Empowerment.

Candice Washington

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Although a current member of the Health Information Management & Technology realm, I engage in my extra-vocational passions for fitness & nutrition, mental health advocacy, and harness my eternal love for journalism (my former major during my beginnings in college before the surge in blogging and online information access).

A lover of my Christian faith, our 6 puppies, twerking, and general expertise, there is no stone left unturned in my personal arsenal of what makes me, me. Boasting proudly my world-famous (or infamous to some) Gemini birthright, listeners will bear witness to my Candisms, both sporadically and without warning.

My search is incessant for multiple avenues of inspiration, education, and change --even if that ends up being one mind-- even if it's only my own. As the beloved Gemini intellect himself once said, "'I'm not saying I'm gonna change the world, but I guarantee that I will spark the brain that will change the world."--Tupac Shakur.